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Wednesday, 22 July 2009

Online Ettiquette Part II

01:59 Posted by Sir Scribbles 28 comments
I have a few observations...may sound biased...think what you like...turn back now if you are not open minded nd ready to read a long ass post

I was talking to this chick one day and a friend of hers joined us. We hadn't met b4 so I was polite, greeted and continued the discussion wiv my friend, she joined in the conversation and we were all just having a good chat together. I find out dis friend of mine just got on FB so wen I got home I sent her a request and in a moment of absolute naivety and innocence I sent her friend one as well. I meant well you know, no strings attached...c'mon it's Scribbles we are talking about here, wud I resort to such mundane tactics to chase a chick...I doubt it. It was just a simple gesture to someone I thot was rational enough to accept based on our nice conversation earlier, It was an innocent request....that lasted 2 months. I swear she didn't accept it or reject it, I know cos after about a week I was curious enough to check nd see that it still said "friend requested". I use to check it and pray she'd ignored it cos at that point I just felt like I'd made a very big mistake, making myself seem...needy. It just felt insulting that she left my request unattended, I saw this girl almost every week, we even talked sef but I'm a proud man and asking a chick to accept my request is just not in my repertoire. After a while I forgot about the request and a couple of days back it just crossed my mind again and I went back to check it and she had rejected it....I was sooooo friggin happy that you won't believe!!! It felt like a huge stone had been lifted off my shoulders, like I'd just salvaged my dignity. I hated having a friend request wiv my name on it just lying there in her profile like a trophy of some sort...then I started thinking and realised something very interesting, Whether you like it or not, Facebook is a way of turning human beings into memorablia, No? b4 facebook did you know the exact number of friends you had? or the exact number of friends they had? I don't think so...except you were a very lonely person...dat one I can understand lol. The trophy counting nature of Facebook is evident in every profile that belongs to a chick on, How? Let me ask you chicks this question? Don't lie oh....you all have about 10+ unanswered friend requests on ur profile lol...yeah I'm talking to you! Chicks keep unaswered friend requests like they're certificates or achievements, like d more they have the tighter the profile. Now I may be making a very uninformed generalisation here and I apologise to the chicks who may feel offended that they have been included in this generalisation but a friend of mine has 64 unanswered requests, another one has 34...even my sister has about 74...wat r u guyz using them 4 biko? Is there a competition going on in the online female community, abi it's just for personal gratification? Milestones perhaps? Why can't y'all simple reject the requests and save Mark Zukerberg's servers some space. I know some creeps like to randomly send requests but that's why Marky boy put the big ignore button right next to the accept button. Am I bitter? Far from it, I simply made an observation and I'm letting you know.

On the other hand I really don't blame you people for not accepting every request that comes your way. It pains and annoys me whenever a chick, my sis for instance, tells me of some random guy who added her on FB nd attached a very weird message to the request. I think some Dudes just type names in the search box nd then randomly start adding chicks who they think are either fine enuf to associate with or thick enough to succumb to the very poorly constructed introductory messgaes they attach.
Thanks to some of the chicks I know I've be able to read some very funny, weird nd unimaginative wall posts and friend request messages and looking back at the beginning of this sentence I doubt there's anything to be thankful for cos I may complain that tactless innovations like cheesy pick up lines are killing the chatting up spirit nd making the process monotonous for the more imaginative niche of the male specie but when these frail attempts at meeting chicks spills over to the online community the bleakness of the process for the creative social networker is undeniable and we may have to resort to more unconventional means to simply say "Hello"

...just re-read this...it does sound biased doesn't it...oh well....

28 comments:

Maiya said...

First First First

Maiya said...

Ohk I'm so happy I'm first
This is my first ever first!!!

I'm not even going to lie I currently have 51 unattended fried requests simply because I try to give everyone a fair chance to be properly reviewed before they are ignored.

Its definitely not about revelling in the fact that poeple adore you
;)

PS-Babe has issues. If your version is anything to go by then I dont see why she wouldnt add you.

NaijaBabe said...

I wont even lie...I did have almost 70 pending, this is after I sat down one day to ignore the previous eighty something from before. I dont know what the reason is, but I guess the memorabilia thing applies but also, when I check the name, the profile and nothing rings a bell, I hit home page. But what that girl did still baffles me. I know I have a policy of not adding people that I dont know. Even if I just see you around campus and we dont talk, you are technically not my friend.

Its not just weird guys that send you friend requests, girls do too, to other girls and I'm like seriously? Here's what one said to me, "African queen,like to no u more, u can view my profile, hoe to hear from you soon".

Agreed, that was when I didnt have all the privacy settings. Now, when you search for me, you dont see a picture, neither do you see my friends. So it still baffles me when I get requests from people I have no links with, considering my first name is not a very popular muslim name among Nigerians. I'm still a bit perplexed.

As for the babe...sorry but some people have issues. At least now you know.

Peaches said...

LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!

I think i have like 200 pending request lol but i think its because i don't ever bother to check them.

but when i do im 100% sure i'd be ignoring 199 of them ok maybe a slight exaggeration but yeeah.

i don't like to add people i don't know.

about the memorabilia thing i don't know oh, i don't even go on fb that much except to check my messages and stuff.

SkinnyLegs said...

The girl in ur story...hmmm...i don even know wat to say lol. But the request thing is really irritiating I gotta say.
Some girls def like the feeling i'm sure...but i'm a guy and i've left some there before cos I wasn't sure if I knew d people.
Then again I never leave them for very long

Dame Halos said...

I personally don't currently have any pending requests...I get loads of request from random people..both guys and girls but I either reject immediately(lol..i try not to do this often) or...I accept and after like 2 wks or so i edit my friends and secretly delete the person if I don't know you...lol..I don't know which is worse..my way..or leaving a request hanging for months...thats just taking the piss..
But in this case sha....its a bit silly that the girl would do that..its not like u guys have never met or had a decent conversation before...I would only reject or later delete people whom I have never met or spoken to before...Whats the point having 1000 friends when u only really know 600 of them..lol..
Pele Sir Scribbles..don't take it personal..we ladies are rather complicated human beings..i know..
x

Dame Halos said...

that was Monisola by the way..

leggy said...

the girl is def stupid...i mean if u guys know each other then y the shakara..mschewww...anyway,dont even mention it...nd keep talking to her very well nd dnt add her again nd if she adds u this time reject it..lol...see her head like rejectinng.
nd no i do not have those lying around...i reject or accept them immediately they come.

Ms.O said...

I currently have none...becuase people cant add me. I am tired of people complaining about the "stalkers" they have when Marky boy made it possible to chnage your settings so these random people dont add you. Girls are soo extra!

Lady X said...

I don't add people I don't know anymore on FB, fine or not. They are trouble. Some of the babes just add you to go through your pictures and things for gossip sake and some of the boys add you for props so they can be like 'Ahn I know this babe now. She's even my friend on FB.' or for whatever reason. Went on a friend deleting spree on FB. Deleted all the people on my list I don't know and don't talk to. I don't just understand how you would add someone you don't know on FB and when they accept you, you don't say anything to them.

What's the point of adding them then! The moment I get a request I accept or reject...Don't let em pile up...

Naija bad boi.... said...

scribbles ur so on point here...i made that same mistake myself and its haunting me till today sef....and d funny fing is she's even my friend!!! okay..an old friend...mscheeeew!!!
plus meehn, some weird sturvs av bn happening to me lately on fb meehn..guys bn trying to add me with some corny pick up lines...had to set my stuf so u can only search for me, but u cant send messahge,add or even view my friends...nice huh?


oh ds is too long....make i no turn my comment to post sef....

chayoma said...

LMAO
the post + comments are cracking me up bad!

miz.lola said...

lol..holding my hand up for this one..it's just that I don't like rejecting..everyone desrves a chance abi..btw how in the world do people you have no connections to find you hmm.
ps-i dont like adding work people which makes things awkward lol

Afronuts said...

lol...

Facebook wahala just wont stop.

Why wont chicks get so many requests? A lot of bozos still have faith in internet flirting...

and that sucks man

CultureCynic said...

it is not biased it is true!!, i actually have friend requests pending becasue i forget to go "Home" in fb...and when i do i have to try to navigate all the random shit about people who for the matters of being nice are snoozers...as it is my cyncism reaches beyond facebook, i had about 1500 friends at one time and in a sheer moment of randomness decided to sit in front of my computer and delete 80 percent , currently i have about 300, and 87 percent were people requesting me, so right now i probably have requests pending...when i get bored enuff i go thru them and like 'The Decider" i weed out the potential snoozers....when it comes to FB i am SHALLOW, i judge new adds based on their face, if it was Bodybook then maybe the approach will be diffferent...the fact that i recognize your face might not mean i will accept you, it is like the common entrance exam mixed with background checks . if i dont recall your acquaintenance, i will go to ur profile if am curious enuff....having that blank no picture face will get you ignored everytime. Add on messages about how you love my thigs and would like to feel it will get you IGNORED and blocked....

for the longest time i had my bro on the list for months because i was trying to figure out if my brother was really my friend...like we are bros but we are not fb friends.....facebook is just for pictures and status messages and birthday reminders...so before accepting some requests i wonder if i need to to know what u do in your pix, or what u write in your status and when ur birthday is.

after reading this i checked my list and went thru them...ignored most, accepted some and just left one pending...to prove a point. the pending person actually inboxed me because he or she noticed i hadn't accepted their request....guess waht her name was? AMber Rose!!! (eyeroll) so i told her she wasn't getting accepted because i hate imposters...so ya having a fake celebrity name is going to get you rejected....commenting on my fb status and making no real sense/boring me will get you deleted, making some crude comments about my tush or thighs wil get you deleted and blocked my fb reputation precedes me...

the girl probably didnt add you for alot of reasonings.....she could be faking the pleasantries in real life but in facebook land, she felt in control, u became just another variable. like she was doing tumbo tumbo to decide whether to ignore or add you. lets be honest, it was probably for your own good, she probably wouldnt have been able to grasp your nuclearness, she probably would have laid dormant in ur list, snoozing u to death. u won!

CultureCynic said...

ps my response is longer than your actuall post...so the long ass post warning is .......

p.s.s please stop refering to girls as chicks

Penelope said...
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Penelope said...

Its not biased in anyway. Plain facts. Plus i am generally a very clean person..lol...even wen it cums to my fb profile. I remember wen i was still on fb i would clean out every application/friend requests at the side. I would remove pokes and just reject stupid group invitations or party invites...just so i could see just my mini feeds...cus i needed dat cleanlines ...lool...i needed to see space. Please its not biased, i hate to see 74 friends request unanswerd. So pple call me mean wen i reject friend requests, some of which i even block the users. But if i dont know u, den u hav no business with my facebook.
I once hacked into my friends fb to reject all his friend requests and group invites.
Ps: I said "His". It was a boy.

Mz. Eniola said...

loool! Scribbles im guilty :S
lool! ahn han! nawa for d babe! i dislike pple like dat! hmmphh! ure nt biased joh

Nice Anon said...

Hahahahahahahaaaaaaaa.. I love you Culture Cynic!

Fabulo-la said...

Na wa o! See shakara. But then again what is the essence of privacy settings?





YO! Why did u delete the other post!
I was first on that one :(

=♥...IamShhh...♥= said...

this isn't biased.
but i guess some girls
keep them pending in case they meet
the people in the near future!!
good enough explanation for you?

Tisha said...

why...
This is so biased
i always give people the benefit of doubt
if they become bothersome

i BLOCK em'
get it!

~Chocolate and Caramel~ said...

LOL this was funny esp how you were waiting for her to 'ignore' the request hahhahahahaha....

Elusivebabe said...

I hate it when I see a friends facebook and it is cluttered with invites, requests, inbox messages & etc. Just looks rather messy.

I ignore requests from randomers. If we have mutual friends then I MIGHT send you a message asking how we met...incase my memory needs refreshing...lol.

Rene said...

This is funny cuz I currently have over a 100 friend requests minus my dad's and the simple reason why I haven't rejected most of them is cuz my friend's tell me to give people a chance. Besides that I get the message on my Hotmail, i don't bother going on Facebook to approve it except the name seems familar bcuz me and fb dnt mesh dt well.

Rene said...

one more thing, I'm bad with names so if some one sends me a request. I would rather not just ignore it because I may have forgotten that I know the person. It took weeks for me to remember that one of my friends on fb was my high school mate.....

faB!! said...

I hate all those piles of requests. I understand some girls like to take their time to see the mutual friends or think if the name ever rings a bell or appreciate the request or whatever they leave it lying around for.

But I don't have such time, I do it right away. That's the first thing I do when I log on facebook. Under 2seconds.....I ACCEPT or IGNORE it. Seriously, it snot that hard....just a click.

I hope she adds you in the future and you reject it under 1 minute of getting it. She'd learn one doesn't need 100years to accept/ignore a friend request......lol!!!