I had to single this question out cos answering it in my 100th post wud be a very long thing so today, in this post, I will talk about myself and women.
I know some of the more 'in-touch' pple among you will cringe at the thot of this expose but no, it isn't an expose...trust me!
I also forsee a lengthy post, skimming will be ur loss cos I'm not repeating this ever again.
Okay where do I begin? I'd like to lay a foundation first, I am not like every other guy, analyse that as u like, it's not me being conceited it's me being self- aware. The way I think and operate aren't conevntional, I also understand myself to a confident degree and putting all these things together makes me believe, sorry know, that I am not like every other guy. Stereotype classifications don't work with me whether it's an attempt at identifying me or pointing out what I'm attracted me. Also, I am a romantic, if you did not know this by now then you are on a long thing! Some men don't like to admit it but I ain't scared, I like the ol' sweep a girl of her feet, candlelight dinner, breakfast in bed, Roses and candy after work. I like to woo a girl wiv every weapon in my arsenal, I do not plan, strategies or manipulate, I prefer to let the feelings lead the actions, most times the head nd the heart aren't always in unison when it comes to boy-girl attractions but for me there has to be a consensus between the two b4 I proceed. Most times when I think I've let my heart get the best of me and fear the consequences I realise my head actually allowed me to take the risk, the realisation ultimately leads to an assurance in my own actions.
So you are wondering why I haven't talked about crushes, girlfriends flings and all that shey? No vex oh but that one sef na long thing. I actually realised that the amount of pple who read this blog is way bigger than the estimate I had in my head the the consequnces of such an elaborate detailing of my relationships will be dire, it's the curse of the semi-anonymous I suppose. My reluctance towards talking about them is purely cos I feel the need to respect their privacy whether they read this or not. Besides I believe grown men don't kiss and tell and even though you may not be expecting me to give any names I am pretty sure if some pple were to read what I wrote they'd feel exposed even if it's a little bit.
I am happy about one thing though when it comes to women, I know what I like. I am not confused or indecisive about my attraction to a women, I know when I like someone and I don't question myself further when I make this conclusion. It's a connection thing, If I connect with you, during a 5 mjin conversation or a month of phonecalls then I don connect and there's really nothing I or you can say to change my mind. This doesn't mean you are immdiately put on a hit list and must be chased by moi, it simply means that if an opportunity should present itself where moves can be made then precious time will ntot be wasted on weighing feelings because it has already been settle that I have connected.
Seeing as I am considerd a nice person some will think this is an avenue to exploit, WRONG! I ain't no mugu! If there's anything I hate more than peas in fried rice it's a woman who wants to exploit a good thing. Maybe that's why they say I'm not steady, I am uber steady mehn, it's d manipulation that ticks me off. You are dealing with a nice guy and if that's something u feel u can exploit then I'm out the door b4 u can say AWOOF!
So you are thinking, Robby Scribbles meets a girl and immediately takes out an asssessment sheet and starts ticking off things he likes and doesn't like shey? far from it. No one is perfect and this fact leads me to believe that I, Robert, and the woman I fancy are a work in progress. I may know myself well but knowing and relating to someones else is completely different. I do not change for pple but merely incorporate, I don't alter myself to suit a preference but try to integrate other things into the constantly improving system. I add things because I want to better for someone and it's blissful to be part of a mutual growth relationship where two pple adapt to each other rather than conform. However, when these added things don't gel with the system they have to be taken out, attributes which cause disharmony in teh system end up corrupting it leading to pretence, hurt and damage.