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Saturday 29 August 2009

If you don't know now u know...

01:12 Posted by Sir Scribbles 34 comments
So 2 more posts to go...*rubs palms in excitement* a new era is imminent and men of valour have to stand up and be counted...

I had to single this question out cos answering it in my 100th post wud be a very long thing so today, in this post, I will talk about myself and women.

I know some of the more 'in-touch' pple among you will cringe at the thot of this expose but no, it isn't an expose...trust me!

I also forsee a lengthy post, skimming will be ur loss cos I'm not repeating this ever again.

Okay where do I begin? I'd like to lay a foundation first, I am not like every other guy, analyse that as u like, it's not me being conceited it's me being self- aware. The way I think and operate aren't conevntional, I also understand myself to a confident degree and putting all these things together makes me believe, sorry know, that I am not like every other guy. Stereotype classifications don't work with me whether it's an attempt at identifying me or pointing out what I'm attracted me. Also, I am a romantic, if you did not know this by now then you are on a long thing! Some men don't like to admit it but I ain't scared, I like the ol' sweep a girl of her feet, candlelight dinner, breakfast in bed, Roses and candy after work. I like to woo a girl wiv every weapon in my arsenal, I do not plan, strategies or manipulate, I prefer to let the feelings lead the actions, most times the head nd the heart aren't always in unison when it comes to boy-girl attractions but for me there has to be a consensus between the two b4 I proceed. Most times when I think I've let my heart get the best of me and fear the consequences I realise my head actually allowed me to take the risk, the realisation ultimately leads to an assurance in my own actions.

So you are wondering why I haven't talked about crushes, girlfriends flings and all that shey? No vex oh but that one sef na long thing. I actually realised that the amount of pple who read this blog is way bigger than the estimate I had in my head the the consequnces of such an elaborate detailing of my relationships will be dire, it's the curse of the semi-anonymous I suppose. My reluctance towards talking about them is purely cos I feel the need to respect their privacy whether they read this or not. Besides I believe grown men don't kiss and tell and even though you may not be expecting me to give any names I am pretty sure if some pple were to read what I wrote they'd feel exposed even if it's a little bit.

I am happy about one thing though when it comes to women, I know what I like. I am not confused or indecisive about my attraction to a women, I know when I like someone and I don't question myself further when I make this conclusion. It's a connection thing, If I connect with you, during a 5 mjin conversation or a month of phonecalls then I don connect and there's really nothing I or you can say to change my mind. This doesn't mean you are immdiately put on a hit list and must be chased by moi, it simply means that if an opportunity should present itself where moves can be made then precious time will ntot be wasted on weighing feelings because it has already been settle that I have connected.

Seeing as I am considerd a nice person some will think this is an avenue to exploit, WRONG! I ain't no mugu! If there's anything I hate more than peas in fried rice it's a woman who wants to exploit a good thing. Maybe that's why they say I'm not steady, I am uber steady mehn, it's d manipulation that ticks me off. You are dealing with a nice guy and if that's something u feel u can exploit then I'm out the door b4 u can say AWOOF!

So you are thinking, Robby Scribbles meets a girl and immediately takes out an asssessment sheet and starts ticking off things he likes and doesn't like shey? far from it. No one is perfect and this fact leads me to believe that I, Robert, and the woman I fancy are a work in progress. I may know myself well but knowing and relating to someones else is completely different. I do not change for pple but merely incorporate, I don't alter myself to suit a preference but try to integrate other things into the constantly improving system. I add things because I want to better for someone and it's blissful to be part of a mutual growth relationship where two pple adapt to each other rather than conform. However, when these added things don't gel with the system they have to be taken out, attributes which cause disharmony in teh system end up corrupting it leading to pretence, hurt and damage.

~END~

34 comments:

BSNC said...

ist again :)

juiceegal said...

BSNC if i catch u ehn..dis is d 2nd time ur takin my spot..take nur time o..lol
Neway 2nd *with a sad face*

Ms. 'dufa said...

3rd! I'll be back!

juiceegal said...

Ehen back to the topic at hand....hmmmm u know i kinda knew u were like dis...im smart like that...lol......but i like the fact that you know who u are and what you want...most people don't and thats where their problems lie.
I liked this post..felt like one of dose relationship analysis books.
PS: This ur 100th post would sha come and go.....lol

BSNC said...

Funny, smart, a romantic, the nice guy..... nothin do you


lol juiceegal am sorry o

*gives juiceegal the 1st position*
(b4 she pour hot water for my body..lol)

Ms. 'dufa said...

Interesting, really intersting! I like the way your mind works

Anonymous said...

You sef BSNC! lol...Oga Scribbles you have been nominated as one of blogsville's hottest bachelors..go and surrender lol...

You are a nice guy through and through...

Bubbles said...

Interesting Robby :)

are you a virgo?

Dark Neo said...

Aww he is bearing his soul ... awww!

Fabulo-la said...

Hmmmm ..interesting.

Dark Neo said...

Btw I know exactly what you are doing here...

It must be awesome to know exactly what you want.. wish I could.

Neo said...

Nice one!

waiting for the 100th post o!

Loré said...

hmmm this is uber interesting

its nice that you have figured out who you are

Sumptuous said...

I wish I could be dis sure of what I want. Cool post anyway.

Nice Anon said...

Have you applied for the bachelor stuff yet? All these folks" hmmmmm ing" might wanna apply ooh just saying LOL

P'sy-A-wana said...

omg my guys going all melodramatic on me, citizens of blogsville he needs a strait jacket lol..

i'm smacking my lips, and rubbing my palms, in anticipation of ur century...

shorty said...

Wow very interesting i like d way u tink.

Ebony~!* said...

Hmmmm, i liked everything about this, the fact that you know what you want asap, Most guys don't know what they want after months of being in a relationship. Thats soo good. Good you dnt kiss and tell buh haba fill us in small now. :) Please am waiting 4 this 100th post ooo!

Anonymous said...

lol....scribble scribbles...good for you oh.

Yinkuslolo said...

so, i was gonna skim, then i decided to read, my loss if i don't shey? then, i got to the 3 to the last paragraph, ur connection blahs and all.

i swear, i just told a friend the exact same thing last thurs. i am tempted to think u overheard my side of the convo. the babe was arguing with moi.

oh well, we now know part of who u are.

Repressed One said...

Hmmm...very interesting!!

iphyigbogurl said...

interesting......
go and join the bachelor thing na on blogville gist...abi una dey shy?
lol

TaioFierce Ameen said...

Hmm... Mr. Scribbles, I like d u tink...
PS; Beta go nd apply for blogville bachelor oh......

Devine said...

I do not change for pple but merely incorporate, I don't alter myself to suit a preference but try to integrate other things into the constantly improving system. I add things because I want to better for someone and it's blissful to be part of a mutual growth relationship where two pple adapt to each other rather than conform.
LOVE THAT!
i wish all guys wer like u mein
sigh

Penelope...! said...

Ehen??? really??? looool
This post has me smiling for so many reasons! Hmm...start guessing oya!
lol

LusciousRon said...

Nice. Not many people can identify what they want.

bonnie said...

interesting....i like the last paragraph so much...it sounded so mathematically pleasing for some reason.

kay9 said...

True confession. my oh my... :D

bob-ij said...

No skimming! I read every word... doorway into the royal scribbles mind...lol I want to see that checklist...lol. that's good though... in relationships/runsing/etc.. feelings work just as good as the mind...

x!

Sir Scribbles said...

@Juiceegal: beef, why u dey beef my 100th abeg, free me joh! Well I'm hapy i know too cos it saves me alot of time

@BSNC: why r u letting her bully you abeg? Yes oh, nothing do me

@Ms. Dufa: Thank you dear, I like it too lol

@Nwanyi: Nominated u say? hmmm..interesting lol. Thanks dear

@Bubblez: Sagittarius my very bubbly babe. any yawa?

@Dark Neo: Dude why u being so cynical, you think you know but u have no idea my broda

@Fabulo-la: in a gud way shey?

@Neo: it's already here my dear, 1 more to go

@Miss Lore: why thank you dear, I appreciate it

@Sumptuous: sometimes not knwoing is more exciting my dear, I can assure you that knwoing can be frustrating at times

@Nice Anon: Yeah I have my dear, after Sting wroyte that disciplinary post I had to comply lol

@P'sy-A-wana: you can be sure your boy won't dull you. 100th is d bomb

@cutee: thanks alot

@Yinkuslolo: Are you serious? That's interesting isn't it? I kinda came to that conclusion just a few months ago.

@Repressed One: thanks

@Leggy: Why thank u leggy! why u kon dey shout my name!

@Ebony: Thank you my dear, the 100th is on it's way no worries...

@Iphy: I have joined ooooo! make una no kill me oh!

@Taio: I have applied oooo!

@Devine: lol! Thanks alot oh! but trust me, i am far 4rm perfect

@Penelope: babe i have no idea why u r smiling seriously lol...shey u go liek tell me

@LuciousRon: whch is why i am happy about it!

@Bonnie: well that's an interetsing way of analysing it, Thanbks alot.

@Kay9: Omo is was compulsory oh!

Sir Scribbles said...

@bob-ij: exactly my point, there is no checklist sha, no defined criterias either. Thanks.

miss.fab said...

And the children of God say Amen!!!

Lol I love this post. Very nicely written. I love this line in particular: If I connect with you, during a 5 min conversation or a month of phonecalls then I don connect and there's really nothing I or you can say to change my mind. Lmaooooo lwkmd! Na hin be say the babe don do juju for you be that o! Lol.

I hate peas in my fried rice too. Ick!

Sir Scribbles said...

@miss fab: I detest it mehn, i have to pick them out one by one b4 I even touch the food. Thanks for the compliments my dear, I appreciate it

histreasure said...

Awesome post..i read this post and it was i was reading the life of someone i know..as in know,for real..and he is waesome in real life too(it's why i feel lucky to be married to him)
So now u r officially liked..lol..
keep doing ur thing..